Who me, a pastor's wife?
I remember visiting the mother of a college friend. She seemed quite sure that I was going to marry a minister. I remember at least inwardly if not outwardly rolling my eyes at the very thought. How could I be a pastor's wife? Except for a brief time in the first grade, I hadn't played the piano. All my experience told me that was central to my role as a pastor's wife. When I was able to look past the stereotype I saw a lot more. Too often a pastor and his wife are thought to be on a different spiritual plane. If they reveal too much that unnerves people. If they don't reveal enough then they would not understand what "real people" go through and so people hesitate to share their struggles with them. It would be wise for a couple to develop relationships with people outside of the church but when is there time to do that? If the pastor and his wife have close friends within the church it's often hard to think outside of the pastor - church member framework...