Friendship and the Pastor's Wife
A long time before I met Steve, I had heard the old adage that a pastor's wife could not have friends within her church. Sometimes the emphasis is on the perceived jealousy some women will express towards those women you seem to prefer. Perhaps I am saved from that problem because of the Presbyterian form of government. I can not be viewed as first lady of our church since we have four men on the session with equal voting power. Getting closer to me would not get any woman closer to the seat of power. I have heard other Presbyterian pastors' wives express frustration about making friends within the church and so there isn't just one answer to this question. A lot depends on what a woman is looking for in a friend. I have been blessed a few times with women with whom I can speak freely but at the same time they will not let me get away with an unbiblical response to life. They keep my secrets but at the same time hold me accountable. Whether I was a pastor's wife or no...